ETA:
I found the part number from http://www.parts.com. It is CONN-AUX ADUIO for $42. I'll try to disconnect the one that came with the car. $42 is too much for my taste.
ETA 2:
I took EVDRIVER's advice. I popped out the $42 connector, plugged the USB end of the iPod cable to it, routed my iPod cable beneath the center console, into the dash board and now my iPod is hidden. I found a cheap piece of black plastic to cover the resultant hole in the console. My iPod is hidden.




