Agreed. Maybe a decade ago or or more, my dad hit some sort of fence gate on the side of the road that was open, he said, in our 93 Dodge Caravan.
IIRC, damage was basically, cracked windshield, bent rod antenna (on front fender), dent on A pillar (became rusty), broken grille, and scratches/scrapes all along the right side. I think the passenger's side mirror was broken off too. The estimate was over 4K. Pretty much the most significant part of the work (IIRC) was all the repainting on that side. All of that looked WAY more minor than what happened to the OP's car.
The car was considered totaled. Not sure if it was up to him or not. He was semi-thankful about that since the transmission was having trouble (it was the more reliable 3-speed auto, not the beleaguered 4-speed "Ultradrive").
If the car had no transmission problems and I were in his shoes, I would've just had the broken mirror and windshield fixed and done nothing else.
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